You’ve probably heard the claims that women are more “emotional” or prone to mental health problems like depression and anxiety, while men are more stable and endure it well. But is this belief rooted in facts? Or is the reality far more complicated when it comes to gender and mental health?
In reality, research shows clear differences in how certain mental health conditions manifest in men and women. However, most do not make outright conclusions about one gender suffering more than the other because of various factors that affect gender differently.
Some key questions this article will address include: do men actually experience less mental illness overall than women? Or does stigma cause underreporting and undertreatment in men? How do social gender beliefs shape symptom expression and help-seeking behavior for men? Do men and women develop different conditions, or just experience similar illnesses differently? Let’s dive into the discussion.
Many studies, including the one published by APA in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, confirm that there are differences when it comes to mental well-being and illnesses. This study found that women who experience mental health issues are likely to internalize emotions, which results in extreme sadness, loneliness, and withdrawal.
Conversely, men more often externalize emotions, leading to impulsive behavior, aggression, and non-compliant behavior. These findings explain why men suffer more from substance abuse and antisocial disorders while women experience anxiety and depression.
In terms of suicide, numerous statistics have proved that men have a higher suicide death rate compared to women. For example, the second leading cause of death for males ages 15-29 globally is suicide—with men dying by suicide at almost four times the rate of women across age groups.
Another study recently published in the Mental State of the World Report found that there was a relative difference in mood, frame of mind, and mind-body connection between genders. For example, compared to men, women experienced more feelings of fear, anxiety, and pain, while men had more issues with feelings of empathy and addictions. From these and other statistics, it is not that men suffer less from mental health issues. It is that each gender processes various challenges differently.
As you reflect on your own life experiences, you may notice examples of these patterns. Perhaps you had a girlfriend who responded to difficulties by becoming withdrawn and isolating herself, while a boyfriend lashed out in anger when upset. Or maybe you observed how a wife coped with anxiety through obsessive worry while her husband drank away his stress.
In your family or friends, you may be able to identify cases where women’s depression went undiagnosed and dismissed as normal emotionality. But a man’s alcoholism was recognized as a disease needing treatment.
Think about times when a man was told to “man up” (or as it is said in Swahili, “Kaa Ngumu” or “Mwanaume ni Kujikaza”) and stop being weak if he opened up about feeling depressed. But a woman readily received support for similar feelings by being encouraged to “express herself.” These diverse reactions show that society needs more sensitization on understanding mental health issues between genders.
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Gender differences in mental health issues are influenced by a combination of biological, psychological, social, and cultural factors. While it’s important to note that individual experiences vary, there are some general contributing factors that differentiate the sexes.
Understanding how these factors affect each gender helps to avoid generalizing and oversimplifying mental health issues in both sexes. It also assists in giving a holistic and sensitive approach to mental health support that considers how individuals experience life based on their gender.
Men’s mental health is as important as women’s, but they are often overlooked because of the assumption that they can and should weather every storm in life. But, men face diverse risk factors that harm their mental well-being. Examples of risk factors, if present, may affect a man’s mental well-being include:
If you or a man you know has gone through one or several of these challenges, they could be experiencing mental or emotional distress. You may not notice it openly because of toxic societal beliefs like “boys don’t cry ” which create shame around seeking mental healthcare and discourage men from healthy expression.
Stigma surrounding men’s mental health issues leads to feelings of shame, dishonor, or disgrace. Men who express their emotional or mental distress, ask for support from family or friends, or seek professional help are often viewed as weak and an embarrassment to those associated with them. This unhealthy mindset from the men themselves and society results in the following outcomes shown in the table.
Impact of Stigma | Men’s Response |
Hesitation to seek help | Fail to reach out for mental health support due to fear of appearing “weak” |
Masking issues | Hide or compensate for mental health struggles by projecting an image of being in control, which worsens the problem |
Self-reliance | Wrongfully believe they should handle issues rather than get assistance |
Social isolation | Withdraw from friendships and social activities in order to conceal struggles, increasing loneliness and distress |
Unhealthy coping | Turn to risky substance use, aggression, reckless behaviors, or overworking to manage difficult emotions |
Suicide ideation and attempts | Consider suicide as a way to escape the burden of dealing with issues on their own |
The heavy stigma surrounding mental health issues in men creates barriers to support and treatment at every turn. However, making progress on this pressing public health issue is possible through various personal and social strategies. Some progress is already being made as we now have November as Men’s Mental Health Month. Some ways you can take part in reducing the stigma surrounding mental health challenges in men are:
At Clarity Counseling and Training Centre, we understand the need for men to seek mental health support. That’s why we have tailored expert counselling services in Kenya fit for men. We use an approach that does not dwell on your emotions but is meant to help you address your challenges. We assure you of confidentiality throughout the process. Book your first appointment with us today.